quick protip: if someone is crying or freaking out over something minor, eg wifi not connecting, can’t find their hat, people talking too loud, do NOT tell them how small or petty the problem is to make it better. they know. they would probably love to calm down. you are doing the furthest possible thing from helping. people don’t have to earn expressions of feelings.
I’m just gonna put it out there that if someone’s freaking about something small, they’re really freaking out about something big that they’re trying to deal with, or something long term that’s been building up, and that little thing is the straw that broke the camel’s back.
I don’t know, try and give people the benefit of the doubt. Don’t be the next straw on their broken back.
Needed this today.
People don’t actually go from 0 to 60. If you think they did, you have failed to notice how long they’ve been at 59.
Another important thing is sometimes the person freaking out didn’t know or couldn’t tell how long they had been at 59 either, especially if they’re autistic / have alexythimia / sensory problems / been through trauma / etc.
Watching yourself completely lose it over “nothing” and sometimes accidentally making others feel bad or hurt without knowing what’s going on and not being able to stop it is terrifying and embarrassing, to say the least.
Try to help them (or yourself) calm down, and identify what was actually building up to make them (or you) break down.
Was it a lack of food / water / hygiene / self care? Stress? Had something triggered them? Did something bad happen in the past day / week(s) that they were okay with up until now? When was the last time they let themself cry or express negative emotions, had it been too long?
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