If you look up symptoms of ASD specific to girls one of them is frequently “masculine behavior/dress” or whatever and people love to blame that on autism being an “extreme male brain” but it’s really very easily explained when you consider what femininity is: a set of implicit social rules forced on women. Like, of course autistic girls and women aren’t going to be as successful at performing femininity “correctly.” It doesn’t have to do with the fictitious male brain. It has to do with femininity being inaccessible to people who have difficulty navigating complex and arbitrary social conventions.
I think femininity is up to the individual.
A woman feels girly with long hair, makeup, high heels and pink dresses? Cool lady!
A woman feels girly with a shaved head, no makeup, piercings, tattoos, a spike-studded leather jacket, a red bustier, jeans and Doc Martens? Awesome lady!
I used two “opposite” examples on purpose. I’m sure anyone can imagine any number of combinations. There is really no right or wrong way to be girly.
Hell, you can have a dick and be a beautiful girl.
Be your own version of feminine and who cares if it aligns with the “social” idea of it. We look and feel our best when we’re true to ourselves. Y’all are gorgeous!
Like 80% of the “not acting properly feminine” stuff is attributable to sensory issues IMO.
Female clothing/hair/make up is genuinely less comfortable and more high maintenance than male stuff.
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