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uniej:

newtgeiszler:

newtgeiszler:

i really don’t know what a fortnite dance is. i see a little fella doing a dance i’m like “rock on” no idea where he learned it. don’t care. his moves are fuckin raw 

all i know is gen z is gonna shred at school dances while all my white ass high school could do was the cha cha slide

lalabnf:

You’ve heard of superwholock, get ready for

thebibliosphere:

deadgodjess:

So I don’t usually like to respond to people’s interpretation of a character because I sure as fuck am not the authority on what is and isn’t canon but I ran into an Alucard (Castlevania) fan blog and there was a post that just… treats Sypha and Trevor really unfairly.

It goes on about how they must not care about him because they couldn’t tell he was hurting and blah blah and look. Kids? Kids. I need to tell you a thing: I’m married to a person who I’ve known more that half my life and we don’t always know when the other is upset, especially when we’re trying not to project our feelings. And even when we do know, there isn’t always anything one of us can do to comfort the other in any real way and if there was we don’t always know how.

That’s just… people. Every person in the world is a whole universe in themself and even the people you’ve known forever are going to have parts you don’t know about.

In this case, we have three people who’ve basically just met eachother and Alucard is the most composed of the three of them. It’s very possible that while they clearly have some sense of him being upset, that doesn’t mean they would know if or how to comfort him.

Trevor DOES flat out give him a reason to live by way of handing over what Alucard would respect as a major responsibility and treasure.

I see this kind of sentiment in so many fandoms, and honestly it comes from such a toxic ideal of co-dependency masquerading as “true friendship/true love”.

ETD and I have been together for 10 years. We do everything together because I am his best friend and he is mine and we love spending time together. We do that annoying sappy thing where we finish each other’s line of thought. We’ve been through literal hell and back with my health issues, and he’s held my hand through all of it. Sometimes he’s even held the sick bag when I’ve been too weak to do it.

And we still sometimes miss when the other person is feeling upset by something, particularly if the other person isn’t projecting it clearly or is making an attempt to hide it. There are times when I have to ask him outright “hey is anything wrong” because I can’t read his body language. Sometimes it’s something as simple as him being tired and not having the energy to be “on”, other times it’s something more serious like work stress or a major life concern we both need to deal with together. Sometimes I don’t even notice something is wrong until he says “hey, I need help with this.”

And that is because relationships of any kind, romantic or otherwise hinge on communication, and not predictive emotional labor. Which is to say, you cannot possibly anticipate or predict the needs of everyone around you all the time, and nor should you be expected to do so. You are a person too, with thoughts and feelings and needs, and people do not exist to absorb or absolve the pain of others. They can only try to help where they can.

Someone missing a social cue, or not picking up on something you are not being open about, doesn’t make them a bad person, and nor is it indicative of how much they love you. It makes it a failure to communicate, or an inability to perform certain emotional labors you are not equipped to deal with. And that’s okay. No one is put on this earth to burn and keep you warm.